Friendship

Friendship - Non-personal friendships

Although the term initially described relations between individuals, it is at times used for political purposes to describe relations between states or peoples ("the Franco-German friendship," for example), indicating in this case an affinity or mutuality of purpose between the two nations.

Regarding this aspect of international relations, Lord Palmerston has said that, "Nations have no permanent friends and no permanent enemies. Only permanent interests."

Friendship - Interspecies friendship

Friendship as a type of interpersonal relationship is found also among animals with rich intelligence, such as the higher mammals and some birds. Cross-species friendships are common between humans and domestic animals. Less common but still of note are friendships between an animal and another animal of a different species, such as a dog and cat.

Friendship - Colloquial nomenclature

A number of colloquial terms have been used to describe friendship and the context in which a friendship is fostered. These are briefly described below.

* A friend who supports others only when it is easy and convenient to do so is called a fair-weather friend.
* A friend who sticks by you through "thick and thin" is a true friend.
* A friend with whom you are sexually intimate but don't consider yourself to be dating is said to be a Casual relationship. This is also referred to as being "friends with benefits".

Friendship - Friendship contrasted with comradeship

Friendship can be mistaken for comradeship. Comradeship is the feeling of affinity that draws people together in time of war or when people have a mutual enemy or even a common goal. Former New York Times war correspondent Chris Hedges has written: "We feel in wartime comradeship. We confuse this with friendship, with love. There are those, who will insist that the comradeship of war is love -- the exotic glow that makes us in war feel as one people, one entity, is real, but this is part of war's intoxication. As this feeling dissipated in the weeks after the attack, there was a kind of nostalgia for its warm glow and wartime always brings with it this comradeship, which is the opposite of friendship. Friends are predetermined; friendship takes place between men and women who possess an intellectual and emotional affinity for each other. But comradeship -- that ecstatic bliss that comes with belonging to the crowd in wartime -- is within our reach. We can all have comrades." [3] As a war ends, or a common enemy recedes, comrades return to being strangers, who lack friendship and have little in common.

Friendship - Bibliography

* Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle
* On Friendship, Cicero
* Hein, David. "Farrer on Friendship, Sainthood, and the Will of God." In Captured by the Crucified: The Practical Theology of Austin Farrer. Edited by David Hein and Edward Hugh Henderson. New York and London: Continuum / T & T Clark, 2004. 119-48.

Types of Friendships

* Romantic friendship
* Soulmate
* Best Friend or Best Girlfriend
* Pen pal
* Internet friendship
* Compadrazgo
* Comrade
* Buddy
* Cuddle Buddy
* Boyfriend/Girlfriend
* Romantic life-partner
* Platonic life-partner
* Compadre/Commadre
* Godparent
* Godsibb
* Good Friend
* Gossip
* Facebook friend
* Families of choice or Chosen families
* Friends with access/Friends with benefits
* Sexualized friendship
* Kula
* Pili hoaloha
* Boston marriage
* Blood brotherhood
* Kasendi
* Classical friendship
* Ritual friendship or Religious friendship
* Companionate love
* Intimate relationship
* Love
* Platonic love
* Romantic love
* Brotherhood or Sisterhood
* Drinking buddy

Friendship

Friendship - Developmental issues

In the sequence of the emotional development of the individual, friendships come after parental bonding and before the pair bonding engaged in at the approach of maturity. In the intervening period between the end of early childhood and the onset of full adulthood, friendships are often the most important relationships in the emotional life of the adolescent, and are often more intense than relationships later in life. These friendships are most often with one's age and sex peers, though equally intense bonds can form with older or younger individuals.

Friendship - Cultural variations

A group of friends consists of two or more people who are in a mutually pleasing relationship engendering a sentiment of camaraderie, exclusivity and mutual trust. There are varying degrees of "closeness" between friends. Hence, some people choose to differentiate and categorize friendships based on this sentiment.

Friendship - Russia

The relationship is constructed differently in different cultures. In Russia, for example, one typically accords very few people the status of "friend." These friendships however make up in intensity what they lack in number. Friends are entitled to call each other by their first names alone, and to use diminutives. Everyone else is addressed by full first name plus patronymic, and is known as an "acquaintance." These could include relationships which elsewhere would be qualified as real friendships, such as workplace relationships of long standing, neighbors with whom one shares an occasional meal and visit, and so on. Physical contact between friends is expected, and friends, whether or not of the same sex, will embrace, kiss and walk in public with their arms around each other, or arm-in-arm, or hand-in-hand, without the slightest embarrassment or sexual connotation.

According to Oleg Kharkhordin in a paper on the politics of friendship, in Soviet society, friendships were "a suspect value for the Stalinist regime" in that they presented a stronger allegiance that could stand in possible opposition to allegiance to the Communist party. "By definition, a friend was an individual who would not let you down even under direct menace to him- or herself; a person to whom one could securely entrust one's controversial thoughts since he or she would never betray them, even under pressure. Friendship thus in a sense became an ultimate value produced in resistance struggles in the Soviet Union [2]."

Friendship - Greece

In Ancient Greece, in a text in defense of pederasty, Plato asserts that, "the interests of rulers require that their subjects should be poor in spirit, and that there should be no strong bond of friendship or society among them, which love, above all other motives, is likely to inspire, as our Athenian tyrants learned by experience; for the love of Aristogeiton and the constancy of Harmodius had a strength which undid their power." Plato, Symposium; 182c

Aristotle categorized friendship into three different categories:

1. Friendship of Utility
2. Friendship of Pleasure
3. Friendship of Virtue

Friendship - Asia

In the Middle East and Central Asia male friendships, while less restricted than in Russia, tend also to be very intimate, and also involve a great deal of mutual non-sexual but affectionate touching, holding of hands and so on.

Friendship - Modern west

In the Western world, intimate physical contact has been sexualized in the public mind over the last one hundred years and is considered taboo in friendship, especially between two males. However, stylized hugging or kissing may be considered acceptable, depending on the context. An exception are young children, whose friendships, usually of a homosocial nature, typically exhibit elements of a closeness and intimacy suppressed later in life in order to conform to societal standards.

About Friendship

If There Is One Ingredient Which Adds

Warmth And Love To Our Lives

It Is FriEndship



If There Is One Relationship To Help

Us Through All The Others

It Is Friendship



Friends Surround Us With The Beauty

Of There Caring With Friends We Can

Share What We See What We Feel

And What We Love




Friends Help Us With Our Problems

Because They Listen And As They Listen

We Begin To Hear The Lauguage Of

Our Own Hearts




With Friends We Can Walk Along The

Remembered Paths Of Our Lives

And Completely Share Our Experiences




With Friends We Can Work The Soil Of

Forgotten Dreams That Needed To Be

Tended And Nutured Once Again





With Friend We Can Plant The Seed

Of Our Hearts New Dreams

We Can Always Return To A Friend Like

Going Back To A Special Place

And Find The Same Warm Feeling

Unchange By Time Of Distance




Life Gives Us Friends So We Can Share

The Precious Times And Memorable

Moments Of Being Children And Teenagers

And Adults And Parents And Grandparents



Life Gives Us Friends So We Can Share

The Growing Up...And Growing Down

And Old




With Friends We Have A Place To Go To

Be Accepted And Understood

Together We Can Cry

Our Thoughts Are Heard

Our Feelings Are Held

In The Heart Of A Friend





With Friends Our Lives Are Made

More Full , More Rich More Open

Beautiful And Blessed.

Friends like you

Friendship is precious!

not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life;

and thanks to a benevolent arrangement of things,

The greater part of life is sunshine.




Of all the blossoms in life's garden,

friendship is the most fragrant.



A friend is a gift where worth cannot

be measured except by the heart




Be full of sympathy toward each other,

loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds

Friendship is sharing openly, laughing often,

trusting always, caring deeply.



We can pour our heart out to a friend

knowing that gentle hands will take

and sift it, keep what is worth keeping,

and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away!



Thank YOU for being my friend,

as amazing of a gift your friendship is to me.

MAY LOVE JOY AND PEACE BE YOURS

HAPPY INDIPENDENCE DAY

Friendship - A tradition in decline

In recent times, some thinkers have postulated that modern friendships have lost the force and importance that they had in antiquity. C. S. Lewis for example, in his The Four Loves, writes,
To the Ancients, Friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue. The modern world, in comparison, ignores it. We admit of course that besides a wife and family a man needs a few 'friends'. But the very tone of the admission, and the sort of acquaintanceships which those who make it would describe as 'friendships', show clearly that what they are talking about has very little to do with that Philia which Aristotle classified among the virtues or that Amicitia on which Cicero wrote a book.

Likewise, Paul Halsall claims that,
The intense emotional and affective relationships described in the past as "non-sexual" cannot be said to exist today: modern heterosexual men can be buddies, but unless drunk they cannot touch each other, or regularly sleep together. They cannot affirm that an emotional affective relationship with another man is the centrally important relationship in their lives. It is not going too far, is it, to claim that friendship - if used to translate Greek philia or Latin amicita - hardly exists among heterosexual men in modern Western society.

Mark McLelland, writing in the Western Buddhist Review under his Buddhist name of Dharmachari Jñanavira (Article), more directly points to homophobia being at the root of a modern decline in the western tradition of friendship:
Hence, in our cultural context where homosexual desire has for centuries been considered sinful, unnatural and a great evil, the experience of homoerotic desire can be very traumatic for some individuals and severely limit the potential for same-sex friendship. The Danish sociologist Henning Bech, for instance, writes of the anxiety which often accompanies developing intimacy between male friends: The more one has to assure oneself that one’s relationship with another man is not homosexual, the more conscious one becomes that it might be, and the more necessary it becomes to protect oneself against it. The result is that friendship gradually becomes impossible.

Their opinion that fear of being, or being seen as, homosexual has killed off western man's ability to form close friendships with other men is shared by Japanese psychologist Doi Takeo, who claims that male friendships in American society are fraught with homosexual anxiety and thus homophobia is a limiting factor stopping men from establishing deep friendships with other men.

Recent western scholarship in gender theory and feminism concurs, as reflected in the writings of Eve Sedgwick in her The Epistemology of the Closet, and Jonathan Dollimore, in his "Sexual Dissidence and Cultural Change: Augustine to Wilde, Freud to Foucault

Friendship

Friendship is a human relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of putting the other's interests before one's own. Their tastes will be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.

Value that is found in friendships are often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis

* the tendency to desire what is best for you.
* sympathy and empathy
* honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth
* mutual understanding

It is often considered that a true friend is capable of deep feelings, which may be unexpressible, except in times of great trouble, when they come to your aid.

In a comparison of personal relationships, friendship is considered to be closer than acquaintanceship, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and acquaintances. For many people, friendship and acquaintanceship lie along the same continuum.

The principal disciplines studying friendship are sociology, anthropology and zoology. Various theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social psychology, social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles. See Interpersonal relationships

Non-personal friendships

Although the term initially described relations between individuals, it is at times used for political purposes to describe relations between states or peoples (the "Franco-German friendship", for example), indicating in this case an affinity or mutuality of purpose between the two nations.

Regarding this aspect of international relations, Lord Palmerston said:
“ Therefore I say that it is a narrow policy to suppose that this country or that is to be marked out as the eternal ally or the perpetual enemy of England. We have no eternal allies, and we have no perpetual enemies. Our interests are eternal and perpetual, and those interests it is our duty to follow.[20] ”

This is often paraphrased as: "Nations have no permanent friends and no permanent enemies. Only permanent interests."

The word "friendship" can be used in political speeches as an emotive modifier. Friendship in international relationships often refers to the quality of historical, existing, or anticipated bilateral relationships.

Friendship and health

The conventional wisdom is that good friendships enhance an individual's sense of happiness and overall well-being. But a number of solid studies support the notion that strong social supports improve a woman’s prospects for good health and longevity. Conversely, it has been shown that loneliness and lack of social supports are linked to an increased risk of heart disease, viral infections, and cancer as well as higher mortality rates. Two female researchers have even termed friendship networks a “behavioral vaccine” that protects health and mental health.[18]

While there is an impressive body of research linking friendship and health status, the precise reasons for this connection are still far from clear. Most of the studies are large prospective studies (that follow people over a period of time) and while there may be a correlation between the two variables (friendship and health status), researchers still don’t know if there is a cause-and-effect relationship, e.g. that good friendships actually improve health.

There are a number of theories that attempt to explain the link, including that: 1) Good friends encourage their friends to lead more healthy lifestyles; 2) Good friends encourage their friends to seek help and access services, when needed; 3) Good friend enhance their friend’s coping skills in dealing with illness and other health problems; and/or 4) Good friends actually affect physiological pathways that are protective of health.[19]
Love


Love is closely related to friendship in that it involves strong interpersonal ties between two or more people.

In terms of interpersonal relationships, there are two distinct types of love:

1. Platonic love: is a deep and non-romantic connection or friendship between two individuals. It is love where the sexual element does not enter.
2. Romance (love): considered similar to Platonic love, but involves sexual elements.

Types of friendships

The following is a list of terms that are used throughout the world to describe some types of friendships.

Acquaintance: a friend, but sharing of emotional ties isn't present. An example would be a coworker with whom you enjoy eating lunch or having coffee, but would not look to for emotional support.

Best friend (or close friend): a person(s) with whom someone shares extremely strong interpersonal ties with as a friend.

BFF ("Best Friend Forever"): slang originally coined on the internet and used primarily in the USA by women to describe a girl friend or close best friend. The slang BFF has been around longer than the internet.

Blood brother or blood sister: may refer to people related by birth, or a circle of friends who swear loyalty by mingling the blood of each member together.

Boston marriage: an American term used in the nineteenth and twentieth centuries to denote two women that lived together in the same household independent of male support. Relationships were not necessarily sexual. It was used to quell fears of lesbians after World War I.

Bro: In the USA, common term for best friends among men, oftentimes in college or early adulthood.

Buddy: In the USA, males often refer to each other as "buddies", for example, introducing a male friend as their "buddy", or a circle of male friends as "buddies".

Casual relationship or "Friends with benefits": the sexual or near-sexual and emotional relationship between two people who don't expect or demand to share a formal romantic relationship.

Comrade: means "ally", "friend", or "colleague" in a military or (usually) left-wing political connotation. This is the feeling of affinity that draws people together in time of war or when people have a mutual enemy or even a common goal. Friendship can be mistaken for comradeship. Former New York Times war correspondent Chris Hedges wrote:

We feel in wartime comradeship. We confuse this with friendship, with love. There are those, who will insist that the comradeship of war is love – the exotic glow that makes us in war feel as one people, one entity, is real, but this is part of war's intoxication. [...] Friends are predetermined; friendship takes place between men and women who possess an intellectual and emotional affinity for each other. But comradeship – that ecstatic bliss that comes with belonging to the crowd in wartime – is within our reach. We can all have comrades.[10]

As a war ends, or a common enemy recedes, many comrades return to being strangers, who lack friendship and have little in common.

Cross-sex friendship is one that is defined by a person having a friend of the opposite sex: a male who has a female friend, or a female who has a male friend. Historically cross-sex friendships have been rare. This is caused by the fact that often men would labor in order to support themselves and their family, while women stayed at home and took care of the housework and children. The lack of contact led to men forming friendships exclusively with their colleagues, and women forming friendships with other stay at home mothers. However, as women attended schools more and as their presence in the workplace increased, the segregated friendship dynamic was altered, and cross-sex friendships began to increase.

Frenemy: a portmanteau of the words fr(iend) and enemy, the term frenemy refers to someone who pretends to be a friend but actually is an enemy---a proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing in the world of friendships. Most people have encountered a frenemy at one time of another, either at school, at work, or lurking in their neighborhood. The term frenemy was reportedly coined by a sister of author and journalist Jessica Mitford in 1977, and popularized more than twenty years later on the third season of Sex and the City. While most research on friendship and health has focused on the positive relationship between the two, a frenemy is a potential source of irritation and stress. One study by psychologist Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad found that unpredictable love-hate relationships characterized by ambivalence can lead to elevations in blood pressure. In a previous study, the same researcher found that blood pressure is higher around friends for whom they have mixed feelings than it is when they’re around people whom they clearly dislike.[11]

Fruit flies,[12] fag hag (female),[13] or fag stag (male):[14] denotes a person (usually heterosexual) who forms deep ties or close friendships with gay men. Men (gay or straight) who have lesbian friends have been referred to lezbros or lesbros.[15] The term has often been claimed by these straight members in gay-straight friendships, however some feel that it is derogatory.[16][17]

Imaginary friend: a non-physical friend created by a child. It may be seen as bad behavior or even taboo (some religious parents even consider their child to be possessed by an evil spirit), but is most commonly regarded as harmless, typical childhood behavior. The friend may or may not be human, and commonly serves a protective purpose.

Internet friendship: a form of friendship or romance which takes place over the Internet.

Mate: In the UK, Ireland, Australia, and New Zealand, blokes often refer to each other as 'mates', for example, introducing a male friend as their "mate", or a circle of male friends as "mates". In the UK, as well as Australia, this term has begun to be taken up by women as well as men.

Open relationship: a relationship, usually between two people, that agree each partner is free to have sexual intercourse with others outside the relationship. When this agreement is made between a married couple, it's called an "open marriage".

Pen pal: people who have a relationship via postal correspondence. They may or may not have met each other in person and may share either love, friendship, or simply an acquaintance between each other.

Roommate: a person who shares a room or apartment (flat) with another person and do not share a familial or romantic relationship.

Soulmate: the name given to someone who is considered the ultimate, true, and eternal half of the other's soul, in which the two are now and forever meant to be together.

Spiritual friendship: the Buddhist ideal of kalyana-mitra, that is a relationship between friends with a common interest, though one person may have more knowledge and experience than the other. The relationship is the responsibility of both friends and both bring something to it.

YOU'RE MY BEST FRIEND!....

"Oh! We're BEST friends! We're going to be together forever and never stop talking and tell each other EVERYTHING!"

Heard it before?

Yeah, I thought so.

Here's something else you might have heard: (Three months later) "Yeah...I've been really busy..." *Crickets*

I call these my HI!/Bye, loser! friends. Yeah, there are fair-weather friends, there's fowl-weather friends...and then there's the 'I like you for a while and then you get boring and I go on to the next poor soul who's stupid enough to let me suck the life out of it.'


Maybe we all have 'em, or maybe my luck just sucks majorly, but it seems like that's all I'm starting to hear.... Even from the people I thought would never abandon me.


Yet, here I lie.


Friendship is so fake now-a-days...people just want to hear what they want to hear. If you don't give them what they want, they leave you in the dust with a nice 'Screw you!' sticker on your forehead and tire-tracks across your middle.

Pretty soon you won't be able to see me anymore, just tire-tracks and stickers from burned-out friendships. It's all I'll talk about, think about, cry about. It sounds pretty awful...But what can I do? It seems like I'm powerless against this fake-friendship monster. It's chewed me up real good and has now spat out the remains, which - let me tell you - ain't MUCH.

You know, people SUCK.

I don't have ONE friend who's stuck with me for the long-haul. Pretty soon they get bored of me...or annoyed...or angry...and that's the end. They can't work it out, they can't tell me what's wrong...they can't fix ANYTHING! I'm tired of it! It makes me sick! I must be SO annoying or something! There most be something REALLY wrong with me that people don't care enough to be my friend for more than a year or two.

I guess that's just it. That's the end. That's the climax. The end of the line. The end of the rope. The end of the end. People don't care about me. Ok. Fine.

Yeah, sure I wished someone did...but I guess that's just too much to ask.

I think I'll go find a dark corner and cry. Have a nice little pity-party. Oh yeah, that makes me feel great...being a selfish git is always on my top-priority list. You know, I do my best to be a friend that sticks with you through thick and thin, and here you go leaving me dead by the road. Thanks. Thanks a LOT.

Ramblings to a so called best find...

How can you claim to be my best frind and then have no time for me or put in no effort into the friendship. We were so close for so long until you used me and betrayed me after i confided in you that i have trust issues. But i forgave you, i decided that our friendship was worth more and important enough to invest time and effort into. Why cant you? Your the one who used me as a cover to sneak around behind your mans back with me knowing!! Your the one who decided to tell your man my secrets just to keep him!!! And im the idiot who forgave and took you back into my life..... Why cant you put the same amount of effort in that i do? Am i know longer as important to you? Why do you introduce me to people as your best friend and then ignore me for most of the night. Only do you come back to me after everyone else has left. Have you always been this way? Have i just been blind to it? Did my lack of self confidence at the begining of our friendship result in you treating me this way? Maybe forgiving you wasn't the best choice for me? Did i make a mistake. Have our 12 yrs of friendship meant nothing? I need to re-assess your place in my life and how much time i now devote to you.

Friends

Friendship . . .

. . . is you.
. . . is love.
. . . is shared.
. . . is forgiving.
. . . is understanding.
. . . is shared secrets.
. . . heals many hurts.
. . . is not judgmental.
. . . is shared laughter.
. . . is slow and steady.
. . . can be angry at times.
. . . is dependable and true.
. . . is more precious than silver or gold.
. . . is meant to be savored like fine wine.
. . . is not perfect, much like we are not perfect.
. . . does not hold grudges or demand perfection.
. . . makes all the wrong things in life, right somehow.
. . . is meant to be gulped like lemonade on a hot summer day.
. . . is always there, through times of trial, happy times and hard times.
. . . just happens, but once discovered, needs to be tended like a beautiful garden.
. . . is a road to be traveled slowly, remembering the sights and sounds.
. . . is strength when you are too weak to notice its there.
. . . is a cherished moment of mutual understanding.
. . . reaches into your heart and grabs a firm hold.
. . . is a refreshing rain on a hot day.
. . . is sunshine through the clouds.
. . . cannot be forced or induced.
. . . is relaxed and comfortable.
. . . is a shoulder to lean on.
. . . is an ear to whine to.
. . . gets better with age.
. . . is shared tears.
. . . is shared pain.
. . . is shared joy.
. . . is shared.
. . . is love.
. . . is you.

God must have known there would be times

We'd need a word of cheer

Someone to praise a triumph

Or to brush away a tear






He must have known we'd need to share

The joy of "little things"

In order to appreciate

The happiness life brings


I think He knew our troubled hearts

Would sometimes throb with pain

From the trials of life's misfortunes

And the goals we can't attain

He knew we'd need the comfort

Of an understanding heart

Someone to give us strength and courage

To make a fresh new start




He must have known we'd need to share

The joy of "little things"

In order to appreciate

The happiness life brings



I think He knew our troubled hearts

Would sometimes throb with pain

From the trials of life's misfortunes

And the goals we can't attain



He knew we'd need the comfort

Of an understanding heart

Someone to give us strength and courage

To make a fresh new start



He knew we'd need companionship

Unselfish... lasting.. .true

And so God answered the heart's great need

With a beloved friend...like YOU!



Have A Blessed Day
May God Bless You And Those You Love Each Day

Quotations about Friendship

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.


But oh! the blessing it is to have a friend to whom one can speak fearlessly on any subject; with whom one's deepest as well as one's most foolish thoughts come out simply and safely. Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.



In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.


The friend within the man is that part of him which belongs to you and opens to you a door which never, perhaps, is opened to another. Such a friend is true, and all he says is true; and he loves you even if he hates you in other mansions of his heart.

So Much To Me

Another day is passing
And still there is no word
On how your life is going
And who is in your world

I pray you will consider
These words I write to you
I liked you in my life
Yet maybe now it's through

I don't want to see
our relationship come to an end
And I don't want to find
our lives standing still

We are moving towards the end
And we really ought to wait
Because God planted something special
Deep within our hearts

I know your life is hectic
You are busy all day through
My life is busy also
But I still think of you

I want to send my love
And remind you of these things
Just so you will know
You mean so much to me

Life without friends

What would life be with out friends like thee
I'll tell you, like no longer being free.
Imagine what life would be so sad and blue
To go through life without that special you.
And I know we live so far away
Through the internet we are like castaways
Never get to touch or hug you for this I only pray
For some day I hope we can meet
To hug and laugh and dance to the beat
I know this would be a treat
For now this is all I see
Is my good friend here with me
Just think what life would be
Without friends like thee

friend shayari

Ae dost teri dosti per karte hai hum naaz......
har waqt milne ki karte hai fariyaad.....
hume nahi pata, gharwale batate hai......
hum neend mein bhi karte hai aapse baat.......

Kar jaa kuch aisa yaari may,
Ke thanks aur sorry words beimaan lage ....
Nibha aisi yaari ke yaaro ko,
Tumhe chhodna mushkil aur duniya chhodna aasana lage ...

Dosti kia hai?...
kisi nay is ko peyaar kaha....kisi nay wafa kaha aur kisi nay baywafa-e ka naam deya....Dosti ek rishta ya bhi kaha geya....mager dosti asaal main ek jazba hai qurbani dainay ka ek ehsas hai mehsoos karnay ka......

Dosti sirf kisi ko dost kahnay say nahi ho jati dost tu naam he hai sath dainay ka, bagair kisi garz baghair kisi maqsaad k..

Dosto ko bewafa keh nahi sakte.......
aur unke bina hum kabhi reh nahi sakte.....

Lafz aap do geet hum banayenge.....
Manzil aap pao rasta hum banayenge......
Khush aap raho khushiya hum dilayenge......
Aap bas dost bane raho dosti hum nibhayenge.....

Aap ke pehelu mein do pal ki zindagi hai bohot,
Ek pal ki khushi,Ek pal ki hansi hi hai bohot,
Humein duniya pehechane yaa naa pehechane,
aap k zehen mein maujudgi hi hai bohot....

Dilon ko khareedne wale hazaar mil jayenge, tumko daga dene wale bar-bar mil jayenge. Milega na tumko hum jaisa koi, milne ko to dost beshumar mil jayenge.

Nishana jo le wo SURVIR,
Nishane pe jo lag jaye wo TIR,
Dil me jo utar jaye wo TASVIR,
Mere Jaise Dost ki saath mil jaye wo ACHI TAQDIR...
Ae Dost Teri Yaad Mein Dil Ka Usool Hai
Hum Tujh Ko Bhul Jaayege Yeh Teri Bhool Hai
Meri Aankhon Se Koi Aansu Na Nikla Lekin
Ghar Ke Har Dar Se Rone Ki Sada Aati Hai
Shikwe Bhi Ziyaada Hai Aur Shikaayat Bhi Bohat Hai
Aur Iss Ke Liye Dil Mein Mohabbat Bhi Bohat Hai
Tum Mujh Se Bichad Jao Toh Yun Maayus Na Hona
Kyunki Rishto Ke Nibhaane Mein Musibat Bhi Bohat Hai

CHAND KE PAAS ANEK SITARE HOGE.
MAGAR SITARO KE PAAS EK HI CHAND HAIN.
AAP KE PAAS HUM JAISE LAAKH HONGE.
MAGAR HAMARE PAAS AAP JAISA DOST EK HI HAIN

Ae dost teri kabh nakaam tamanna na ho
Jis mein rahe udaas tu aisa koi lamha na ho
Jo aarzoo ho teri voho tera naseeb ho
tu dil se jis ko maang le..pal mein tere qareeb ho

Girti hui baarish ki bundon ko apne haton me samet lo,
jitna paani tum samet paye utna yaad tum humen karte ho,
jitna pani tum samet nahi paye, utna yaad hum tumhe karte hai

Ha yaad karne se dosti ziyada barti hai
par mein uss baarish ki boondo ki baat
kar rahi thi ke jo sameyt saku utna mein
apko yaad karti hu aur jo na sameyt saku
utna aap yaad karte ho mujhe....yeh toh
vohi baat hui na ke aap ziyaada yaad karte hai
par aap kya jaane mere dil ki mein kitna yaad karti hu
Friendship is like a glass
handle it with care
because once broken cannot be mended
and even if mended....
a crack is always there !!!

Kisi Dhadkan Ke pICHE koi Baat Hoti Hain..
Dard Ke Piche Kisi Ki Yaad Hoti Hai,
Apko Pata Ho na ho
appki Har Khusi Ke Piche
Hamari Fariyaad HoTi Hai.

"Dosti ka paigam jo aapka mila,
Dil ho gaya khush mit gaye saare gila,
Kisi Dost ko nahi mila hoga,
Dosti ka aisa sila,
Ki Saare Ghum Hogaye dooor mere,
Jab doston ke pyaar ka nazraana mila"

A friend called YOU is like a star
who shines even on the darkest night!
Thanx for adding a sparkle to my days

Zindagi ki raaho mein tumhein jo gham milenge,
Mere honslo se kam milenge....
Jab khud ko tanha pao kabhi,
Kasam dosti ki bas yaad karna aur saamne hum milenge....

DIL CHAAHTA HAI MULAQAT ROZ HO,
ZINDAGI KE LAMHON MEIN TERA SATH ROZ HO,
HO HUMSE KUCH BATAEIN ITNI KAREEB SE,
UMAR NA BHOOLE AISI BAAT ROZ HO....

na khuda dil banata,
na kisi se pyar hota
na kisi ki yaad aati,
na kisi ka intzaar hota
dil diya hai use samhaal kar rakhna
sheese se bana hai patthar se door rakhna.

When u count best friends,
U may not count me;

When u count close friends,
U may not count me;

But when u really need a friend,
Just start from me

I pray FOR YOU....
a life that YOU truly deserve,
a life as good as YOUR heart,
a life as bright as YOUR smile,
& a life as wonderful as YOU

What is sweet but not Honey,
Precious but not Money,
Bright but not Sunshine,
Improves with time but not Wine???
Its....OUR FRIENDSHIP!!

Zarurat hi nahi alfaz ki,
Dosti to bas cheeze hai ahsas ki,
Pass hote to kya manzar hota,
Door se hi kabar hai hame apki har sans ki

Na khwabon me dekha, na nazaron me dekha,
Hazaron me ek humne tum hi ko dekha,
Gum dene wale to har pal hai yahan,
Har pal khushi dene walon me ek aap hi ko dekha
Time might lead me to nowhere and faith might break into pieces
but I will always be THANKFUL that once in my life's journey
"We became FRIENDS

It takes half of our life to find true friends
& half of it keeping them.
I am lucky to have spent less than half of my life finding you
& wish to spend the rest keeping you

Kareeb Se Tumhe Dekha Toh Apna Paaya,
Jab Tumhe Dosti Mein Aazmaaya Toh Apna Paaya,
Tumhe Kya Naam Du Samajh Mein Nahin Aata
Dost, Pyar, Zindagi Ya Mera Saaya

A word 2 say a word 2 hear
even in ur absence i feel u near.

Our relation is strong
hope it goes long.

We remain FRIENDS
till the LIFE goes on

Always ask God to give u what u deserve,
not wat u desire....
It is becoz ur desires may be few,
but u deserve a lot!

Friendship is all about three things:
Winning losing and sharing....
Winning your friends heart..
Losing your ego..
& Sharing joys and sorrows

Jo aapko ehsaas ho dosti ka mere,
kuch apne dil mein hamein jagah dena.
Mil jaaye hamein phir jannat bhi,
Saanson mein aise basa lena

Mehnat Se Roti Milti Hai;
Kismat Se Daulat Milti Hai;
Khuda Ki Khaas Nazar Ho Jis Bandhe Pe....
Usse Duniya Mein Hamari "DOSTI" Milti Hai
Tutte taarya nu vekh ehi fariyaad mangde ha
Assi apni zindagi vich teri yaad mangde ha
Dost kadde dhokha na devi saanu
Saanu dosti chaahidi assi kehra teri jaan mangde ha

Pyaar kahete hai..Mohabbat kahete hai.. Kuch log use bandagi kahete hai.. Magar jinke sath hum dosti karte hai.. Hum unhe apni zindgi kahete hai..

Iss kadar pyar hai, tumse ae humsafar
Ab toh jeetey hai hum, bas tumhe dekh kar
Tumhari har adaa, tumhari har nazar
Yeh kya kehne lagi, tumhe hai kya khabar
Iss kadar pyar hai, tumse ae humsafar

ZIndagi kabhi dhoka nahi deti hai....
maut us ko majboor kerti hai dhoka deine ko...

Kuch log dosti ko gam samajhte hai.....
Jo gam samajhte hai woh kam samajhte hai.....
kis tarah waqt guzar raha hai dosto ke bina.....
yeh koi aur nahi sirf hum samajhte hai.........

True friendship is like a degree that finish within 3-or-4, it's a lifetime course but not just to study but also to feel & also to live...

Be a poet when you are alone.....
Be a king when You command......
Be a scientist when you work......
Be a lover when you see beauty.....
Be a history when you die.......
be a friend until I DIE........


Zindagi mein hamesha naye dost milenge, kahi zyada to kahin kum milenge. Aitbaar zara soch kar karna, mumkin nahi tumhe har jagah HUM milenge.......

Dard jitna saha jaye utna hi sehna, Kisi ke dil ko jo lag jaye vo baat na kehna, Milte hain hamare jaise dost bahut kam, Isline humse 'Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna'

Aye Dost Tu Itna Badkalam Na Ho
Ki Kabhi Karib Se Gujrae To Dua-Salam Na Ho
Dil Mai Haazaar Gila Shikva Ho Magar Yeh Nahi Mumkin
Tum Aao Mere Ghar Mein Aur Ahitram Na Ho
Haazaar Dusmani Ho Tumse,Magar Khuda Karen
Dil Mein Kabhi Ahsaas-E Intekam Na Ho

Friends

Friend: that one special person
who makes life a bit
easier by just being
there and listening to your
problems and difficulties.

Friendship: a special bond
between two people.
A bond that time
cannot break. It is strong
like a chain, with linking
hearts.

For All The Times

For all the times you made me smile, thank you.
For all the times you held my hand, thank you.
For all the times you smiled at me, thank you.
For all the times you listened to me when no one else would, thank you.
For all the times you encouraged me, thank you.
For all the times you hugged me, thank you.
For all the times you shared a part of yourself with me, thank you.
For all the times you kissed me on the cheek, thank you.
For all the times you gave me a ride somewhere, thank you.
For all the times you asked to spend time with me, thank you.
For all the times you trusted me, thank you.
For all the times you complimented me, thank you.
For all the times you cared about my well being, thank you.
For all the times you said "I love you", thank you.
For all the times you thought of me, thank you.
For all the times you brought me joy, thank you.
For all the times you were there when I needed you, thank you.
For all the times you missed me, thank you.
For all the times you gave me comfort, thank you.
For all the times you looked in my eyes and filled my heart with a song, thank you.

For all of this:

Never forget that when I smile at you, I'm saying "I love you. "
Never forget that my hand is always outstretched toward you.
Never forget that I am always here to listen to you.
Never forget that I will always stand behind you.
Never forget that I plan to hug you at least twice everyday.
Never forget that I am an open book to you.
Never forget that I wish I was the roof of your car ( inside joke. ; ) )
Never forget that you need only ask me for anything, and it's yours.
Never forget that I want to spend time with you.
Never forget that I completely trust you.
Never forget that I think you are the most beautiful girl in the world.
Never forget that I care about you more than anything else in the world.
Never forget that I do love you, weather I say it or not.
Never forget that I'm thinking of you right now.
Never forget that you bring me joy, especially when you smile.
Never forget that I am always here for you.
Never forget that I missed you to.
Never forget that I am here anytime you need comforting.
Never forget that I still get lost in your eyes.

True Friends

A story tells that two friends


were walking

through the desert

During some point of the

Journey they had an

Argument, and one friend

Slapped the other one

In the face.

The one who got slapped

was hurt, but without

saying anything,

wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND

SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.

They kept on walking

until they found an oasis,

where they decided

to take a bath.

The one who had been

slapped got stuck in the

mire and started drowning,

but the friend saved him.

After he recovered from

the near drowning,

he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND

SAVED MY LIFE.






The friend who had slapped

and saved his best friend

asked him, "After I hurt you,

you wrote in the sand and now,

you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied

"When someone hurts us

we should write it down

in sand where winds of

forgiveness can erase it away.

But, when someone does

something good for us,

we must engrave it in stone

where no wind

can ever erase it."







LEARN TO WRITE

YOUR HURTS IN

THE SAND AND TO

CARVE YOUR

BENEFITS IN STONE!!!

They say it takes a

minute to find a special

person, an hour to

appreciate them, a day

to love them, but then

an entire life

to forget them.






Send this phrase to

the people you'll never

forget. If you don't

send it to anyone,

it means you're in a

hurry and that you've

forgotten your friends.

Take the time to live!


Do not value the THINGS

you have in your life. But value

WHO you have in your life!

A Simple Thank-You, My Friend

Into the dim lit, bare walls of my world,
You entered, bringing light and life to me,
The vivid colors, painted with a swirl
Of wit and charm, of personality,
With tender care, you added comfort, warmth,
And images that line the now bright walls.
I look upon them fondly, bringing forth
A thankfulness that you walk in these halls
With me; our friendship has become a part
Of my world now; it has its special place,
Within my being, life, and in my heart,
Your name hangs right beside your smiling face.
Rememb'ring just how drab these walls had been,
I have to thank you for the light, my friend.

My Friend

We all need someone
To talk to in our life,
A friend to whom we run
In times of stress or strife

A friend who's always there
Throughout the years,
A friend we know will care
And take away our fears.

A friend who's always near,
Waiting for our call,
To wipe away our tears,
And lift us when we fall.

A loving friend indeed,
On whom we can depend
To fulfill our every need -
Thank you, precious friend

A Friend is.......

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